Self-Compassion

“A moment of self-compassion can change your entire day. A string of such moments can change the course of your life.”

-Christopher Germer

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100 Loves List

100 LOVES LIST

A friend of mine recently challenged me to make a list of 100 things that make me happy. I thought this could be a fun exercise to cultivate a sense of joy and thankfulness. This list tells a lot about who I am and what I value. I challenge you to make a list of your own. Include anything that makes you laugh, love and reminisce – and always remember how much there is to be thankful for!

My 100 loves list:

1) My kids

2) My Family

3) My Friends

3) Music

4) Craft Beer

5) Running

6) Outdoor Activities

7) Reading a good book

8) Baseball (Go SF Giants!)

9) A deep conversation with a close friend

10) Fall

11) Friends TV Show

12) The unconditional love of my family

13) Bon Fires

14) Organization

15) Road Trips

16) Long Warm Showers

17) Cooking

18) My mom’s Chicken Cordon Bleu

19) Sitting at the dinner table with my whole family most nights

20) My morning coffee

21) Computers

22) Anything Paris Themed

23) Getting Dolled up from time to time

24) Hoodies

25) Cold winter nights

26) Holidays with my family

27) Taking my kids to school

28) Cuddling

29) Movie Nights

30) Bike rides with my kids

31) Laughing with siblings

32) Giving gifts

33) My sister and best friend

34) Board games

35) Drinking enough water

36) Going to the lake

37) Live music

38) Late nights

39) Having a routine

40) Good glass of wine

41) New Clothes

42) Girl Talks

43) The beach

44) Driving with the windows down

45) Date nights

46) Spring cleaning

47) Grocery Shopping

48) Having a savings account

49) Laughing until I cry

50) Watching a good comedy

51) “French Kiss”

52) Helping my daughter with her homework

53) Hot air balloons

54) Traveling

55) Austin, Tx

56) Discussing future travel plans

57) Six Flags with my kids

58) Problem Solving

59) School

60) Photography

61) Summer

62) Helping Others

63) Blasting music in my car and singing by myself

64) My coworkers

65) Crockpot recipes

66) Wearing Boots

67) Positive People

68) Restoring old furniture

69) Bargain shopping

70) Writing my feelings down

71) That feeling of perfecting something

72) Being sore after a great workout

73) Spontaneity

74) Hearing my daughters real laugh

75) Driving

76) Laying in the Sun

77) Going to the movies

78) Paying off debt

79) DIY Projects

80) Eating the best steak

81) Manners

82) Perfect Grammar

83) Challenging “Mind” Games

84) Flip Flops

85) Maxi dresses

86) Annual Cooking baking day

87) Traditions

88) Pizza and Beer night in’s

89) A clean house

90) Having every window open on a nice summer day

91) Feeling loved and appreciated everyday

92) Romantic Movies

93) Sudoku

94) Great conversations

95) Play Dates with my kids

96) Surprises

97) Watching the sunrise and set

98) Red Bulls

99) Saturday naps

100) Companionship

Looking over this list reminds me that having a full life, doesn’t necessarily mean having a full calendar. I hope you find as much joy creating your list as I did mine! Never forget to count your blessings. Life is good.

Recovery International

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I’ve recently joined an RI group (Recovery International) through meetup.com. It is a weekly meeting with a handful of other people struggling with depression, anxiety and mental health. I joined this group for mental health reasons.

The RI group was founded in 1937 by Abraham Low. He was a neuropsychiatrist in Chicago, Illinois. It is a non-profit organization that helps people deal with self-control, self-confidence and the determination to act. You can find a group located near you through meetup. I encourage anyone with these struggles to check it out.

I have a huge fear of being in a new setting or atmosphere with people I do not know, by myself. However, when you feel like you’ve hit rock bottom emotionally, you have to stand up and push forward. I over-came my fear and attended an RI group nearby. It was very interesting, I loved the organizer (who are mostly experienced non-professionals). There were several people who attended, including new comers like myself. I purchased two books, “The Wisdom of Dr. Low”, which are the quotations from the works of Dr. Low, and the second book I purchased was the RI discovery participant workbook. Each week we read a chapter out of the workbook and discuss as a group what we thought about the teachings. After we proceed to talk individually about the constructed 4 step outline to help us with a situation we may be struggling with.

Step 1: Report a single situation or event that caused you to get yourself worked up. Give a brief description of what happened, what triggered temper and symptoms?

Step 2: Report the symptoms you experienced, both physical and metal. (Fearful thoughts, angry, confusion, disturbing impulses, tightness in your chest, lowered feelings, sweaty palms, etc.)

Step 3: Report your spotting of fearful or angry temper, use the RI tools to spot yourself and give self-endorsement for your effort.

Step 4: Begin with “before I had my RI training,” and describe the temperamental reaction and symptoms you would have experienced in former days. What would have happened then versus what would have happened now?

After discussing all four steps with the group, the group then volunteers to endorse you for your effort as well. This is a great way to help me calm myself down when I get myself worked up with anger. I am still new to this group, however I encourage anyone to try it. I am going to take notes in each group and write out my thoughts each week.

Goals:

“The one and only goal of the patient must be to regain his mental health.  In order to achieve it, the goals and whims and wishes of “human nature” must be held down with ruthless determination.” – Dr. Low